1. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg
First up is Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life.
Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, developed Nonviolent Communication in the 1960s; it is an international bestseller with over 1100 reviews on Amazon! I love the book because of Marshall’s story- telling style and it lays out NVC in a step by step, easy way. There are such clear examples and explanations. This is the foundational book to start with if you haven’t read any books on NVC.
By the way, this book was shared by Microsoft CEO, Satya Nadella to his board members and he named it his all-time top 7 books. Also, Tara Brach, Tim Ferris, Esther Perel and so many others talk about NVC.
2.Spinning Threads of Radical Aliveness: Transcending the Legacy of Separation in Our Individual Lives By Miki Kashtan
This book was hugely instrumental in helping me internalize that we, humans, do not have to be ashamed of having needs ; shame is used as a tool in socialization, often to punish, and because of these experiences of shame, we have learned to downplay or even ignore our needs.
As NVC practitioners, we ask fully for our needs to be met whilst releasing attachment to outcome. Fundamentally our needs are life-affirming; our strategies can be harmful but not needs.
Miki shares stories & lessons learned in her life right from early childhood via her mother’s diaries in a very honest, vulnerable way — as a reader, these very personal accounts left me deeply moved. There are also some great practices on gratitude, overcoming separation and opening up to feedback.